So I don't bemoan my life at all and I never use the past to play the victim. I'm fairly good at moving on and getting past things. However, there are things that I have absolutely no desire to do...
1. I don't watch doctor or hospital shows... when you've spent as much real life time in hospitals as we did, why in the HELL would I want to watch a fake hospital show?
2. I don't watch movies when I can tell from the outset that one of the lead characters is going to die.
3. I don't read anything that even hints at sad or having long sad parts.
So, what do I read? Some autobiographies but mostly work books on leadership, etc and romance novels. Romance novels are perfect -- they ALWAYS have a happy ending and everything works out in the end and wraps up nicely.
So how upset was I when I found this book on my kindle that the description was for a story where an author meets a college professor on twitter who is on sabbatical in Europe. It's witty and entertaining.. they are slowly falling for each other.. it's all sweet and funny... and then they hit me in the face with the fact that he's not really in Europe -- he's really in a hospital, dying, of cancer. He wont' even tell the girl what hospital he's in...
I am angry.. because I was so into the book and the characters that I had to read it to the end to see what happened and they DIDN'T EVEN SAY WHETHER HE LIVES OR DIES!!!
pretty angry about that.. here I am.. breaking one of my cardinal rules.. reading about someone dying.. sobbing like a baby.. and it doesn't even have a happy ending.. it ends with her tracking him down in the hospital and going to visit.. it ends with him saying hi to her.. but we never know if he lives or dies. He just says hello and it's over.
WHAT A RIP!!
I'm seriously angry over this...
Yes it was a good book, but I feel betrayed because they didn't hint in the book description so that I could choose if I read a book about dying or not...
Assholes!!
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Better Than Normal..
Today is my last day as an Assistant Director of Residential Life!!
Today is the last day of work for 2010, well, with the exception of on call duty!!
Today is going to be a very very long day!!
Today is the last day of work for 2010, well, with the exception of on call duty!!
Today is going to be a very very long day!!
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Sitting on Big News...
So, I've been sitting on some big news now for about a week and finally FINALLY I can share it, but I don't want to be all cliche with it and put it on Facebook.. though I really want to shout it from the rooftop and tell everyone I've ever met...
Lame = YES
Understandable = DEFINITELY!!
So, here goes!
I got the job... I GOT THE JOB!! Look at me I'm the new Associate Director for Residential Student Success at Indiana State University!! Woot Woot!!
Ok, I'm done now. Thank you for listening!! :)
Lame = YES
Understandable = DEFINITELY!!
So, here goes!
I got the job... I GOT THE JOB!! Look at me I'm the new Associate Director for Residential Student Success at Indiana State University!! Woot Woot!!
Ok, I'm done now. Thank you for listening!! :)
Monday, December 6, 2010
Four Days
Well, I'm a grown up....
Yep... all grown up... no longer a kid...
Well..
Except for this week!!
Why??
It's my birthday week!!
Yep... all grown up... no longer a kid...
Well..
Except for this week!!
Why??
It's my birthday week!!
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Of all the.... SHEESH
So we were helping Jess move today. I had organized a small army to help us move her stuff to her new and bigger apartment. I'm excited for her, she was in an efficiency and now she actually has a separate bedroom. It's really nice.
Anyway, so we bribed the guys to come out by offering Pizza and beer, but since we started at 9am Jess also offered mimosas and bloody marys as well as beer and I got donuts. It was delightful. And with our group of friends, it was, as always, freaking hilarious! Ben was drunk by 9:30am.
Anyway, so we had taken two loads to the new apartment were taking a break on her little outdoor patio area when her phone rings. It's a private number so she answers it and it's the cable company calling to set up a time to hook up her Internet in her new apartment.
There are 2 back-stories that you need to know:
1. I have very few rules in my world, but one of them is that I absolutely do not date anyone who knows my friends or work colleagues (most of the time they are the same). Anyway, I have this rule to minimize drama in my life. I don't like for my dating life to cross paths with the rest of my world-- ever -- or at LEAST until it gets serious. It's easier and waaay less drama that way.
2. In previous posts I mentioned that I dated the cable guy? Well for the past year and a half my biggest fear has been that I'd call the cable company for service and he'd be the one to show up -- and it would happen when my friends were around (see story 1).
Back to TODAY
So we're taking a break and the cable company calls. Jess, who knows I dated the cable guy, but of course has never met him, gives me a look and sees me send up a silent prayer to the PTB so before she hangs up she says, "So who am I talking to again?" She looks at me and says, "Thanks, Matt, I'll see you soon." and hangs up. Then she stares me down.. my reply is "Matt is a common name -- it doesn't mean it's Matty Fantastic...." (Which was our nickname for him).
So everyone else looks at me funny when I say that, so I jokingly say -- "Remember that time I dated the cable guy?" Ben and Adam both know what I'm talking about, but Lindsey, Dan, Zac, and Andy were clueless. I said "No seriously, remember that time I dated the cable guy? There's a 60 - 90% chance you'll get to meet him today." All the while praying that it wouldn't happen. It would be awkward. Of course Adam and Ben started making cable "installation" jokes... awesome, it was going to be awkward...
Backstory #3: Matt (I usually only refer to him a "Cable Guy" so calling him by name is weird) and I stopped seeing each other when I found out his recently ex-wife was pregnant with his baby -- and was due in a month. He went back to her and they moved to Ft Wayne for a while.
Anyway, so I was hopeful. We were on our third load and I was walking out to unload some stuff from Dan's truck when I saw the big cable truck pull in -- and Matty Fantastic was at the wheel. I don't know if he saw me, but I tried to be inconspicuous. I walked back inside, found Jess and said "It's him" and she knew.. and asked if I wanted to start unpacking the bedroom to say out of sight. Well, anyone who knows me knows that was a great big "HELL NO" I don't run scared!!
I walked back outside to help carry more stuff and as I approached the group he was parking his truck and I walked toward the group of my friends and quietly said, "Yep, it's him" Adam and Ben both almost fell down laughing at me. I asked them to please "Be cool!" I think they all were curious because they don't necessarily look at me as someone who dates.. just as a boss
So, he walks up and Jess greets him as they walk in I was standing there and he looked at me out of the corner of his eye and smiled and winked. I greeted him and we chatted and caught up while he was installing her cable and Internet. All the while, the rest of the group (Adam, Ben, Jess, Lindsey, Andy, Dan, and Zac) were all on the patio just outside of the door drinking and laughing. Every two or three minutes Ben would come inside and offer Cable Guy a drink and would try to convince him to drink with us and hang out or do a shot. After about the third time Cable guy looked at me and said, "Your friends are pretty cool -- they seem like a lot of fun" I just replied with "Yep, they're crazy, but a lot of fun." He told me they had moved to Ft Wayne, but his mom got sick so he moved back (he just said "I moved back" not "We moved back") and took a job as a technician (he had been a supervisor/manager before). He also gave me a pointed look and asked me if I was seeing anyone. Since he emailed me last week and asked if I wanted to hang out i wasn't surprised.
PTB or I would have been red faced!! Anyway he gave me his cell and told me to call him sometime this week and he'd come over and take a look at my Internet.
I know this isn't a big deal for most people, but I try really REALLY hard to keep things compartmentalized and to have an overlap like that kind of threw me. Of course they made fun of me for the rest of the day about the "installation."
Perverts!!
On a good note, we finished getting her moved in about 2 hours then went to Adam's (who lives in the same complex as Jess just across the parking lot) and watched football and ate pizza. It was a good day.
I only almost died once from laughter -- so I call that a definite SUCCESS!!
Anyway, so we bribed the guys to come out by offering Pizza and beer, but since we started at 9am Jess also offered mimosas and bloody marys as well as beer and I got donuts. It was delightful. And with our group of friends, it was, as always, freaking hilarious! Ben was drunk by 9:30am.
Anyway, so we had taken two loads to the new apartment were taking a break on her little outdoor patio area when her phone rings. It's a private number so she answers it and it's the cable company calling to set up a time to hook up her Internet in her new apartment.
There are 2 back-stories that you need to know:
1. I have very few rules in my world, but one of them is that I absolutely do not date anyone who knows my friends or work colleagues (most of the time they are the same). Anyway, I have this rule to minimize drama in my life. I don't like for my dating life to cross paths with the rest of my world-- ever -- or at LEAST until it gets serious. It's easier and waaay less drama that way.
2. In previous posts I mentioned that I dated the cable guy? Well for the past year and a half my biggest fear has been that I'd call the cable company for service and he'd be the one to show up -- and it would happen when my friends were around (see story 1).
Back to TODAY
So we're taking a break and the cable company calls. Jess, who knows I dated the cable guy, but of course has never met him, gives me a look and sees me send up a silent prayer to the PTB so before she hangs up she says, "So who am I talking to again?" She looks at me and says, "Thanks, Matt, I'll see you soon." and hangs up. Then she stares me down.. my reply is "Matt is a common name -- it doesn't mean it's Matty Fantastic...." (Which was our nickname for him).
So everyone else looks at me funny when I say that, so I jokingly say -- "Remember that time I dated the cable guy?" Ben and Adam both know what I'm talking about, but Lindsey, Dan, Zac, and Andy were clueless. I said "No seriously, remember that time I dated the cable guy? There's a 60 - 90% chance you'll get to meet him today." All the while praying that it wouldn't happen. It would be awkward. Of course Adam and Ben started making cable "installation" jokes... awesome, it was going to be awkward...
Backstory #3: Matt (I usually only refer to him a "Cable Guy" so calling him by name is weird) and I stopped seeing each other when I found out his recently ex-wife was pregnant with his baby -- and was due in a month. He went back to her and they moved to Ft Wayne for a while.
Anyway, so I was hopeful. We were on our third load and I was walking out to unload some stuff from Dan's truck when I saw the big cable truck pull in -- and Matty Fantastic was at the wheel. I don't know if he saw me, but I tried to be inconspicuous. I walked back inside, found Jess and said "It's him" and she knew.. and asked if I wanted to start unpacking the bedroom to say out of sight. Well, anyone who knows me knows that was a great big "HELL NO" I don't run scared!!
I walked back outside to help carry more stuff and as I approached the group he was parking his truck and I walked toward the group of my friends and quietly said, "Yep, it's him" Adam and Ben both almost fell down laughing at me. I asked them to please "Be cool!" I think they all were curious because they don't necessarily look at me as someone who dates.. just as a boss
So, he walks up and Jess greets him as they walk in I was standing there and he looked at me out of the corner of his eye and smiled and winked. I greeted him and we chatted and caught up while he was installing her cable and Internet. All the while, the rest of the group (Adam, Ben, Jess, Lindsey, Andy, Dan, and Zac) were all on the patio just outside of the door drinking and laughing. Every two or three minutes Ben would come inside and offer Cable Guy a drink and would try to convince him to drink with us and hang out or do a shot. After about the third time Cable guy looked at me and said, "Your friends are pretty cool -- they seem like a lot of fun" I just replied with "Yep, they're crazy, but a lot of fun." He told me they had moved to Ft Wayne, but his mom got sick so he moved back (he just said "I moved back" not "We moved back") and took a job as a technician (he had been a supervisor/manager before). He also gave me a pointed look and asked me if I was seeing anyone. Since he emailed me last week and asked if I wanted to hang out i wasn't surprised.
PTB or I would have been red faced!! Anyway he gave me his cell and told me to call him sometime this week and he'd come over and take a look at my Internet.
I know this isn't a big deal for most people, but I try really REALLY hard to keep things compartmentalized and to have an overlap like that kind of threw me. Of course they made fun of me for the rest of the day about the "installation."
Perverts!!
On a good note, we finished getting her moved in about 2 hours then went to Adam's (who lives in the same complex as Jess just across the parking lot) and watched football and ate pizza. It was a good day.
I only almost died once from laughter -- so I call that a definite SUCCESS!!
Thursday, November 18, 2010
MAKE A DECISION
So I was just emailing my dad and decided to put this out there for everyone..
Please learn to make a decision on your own from time to time....
I have something of a reputation as a control freak or being bossy.. it is not intentional in the slightest. In fact it's not even my fault at all...
How many times have you made plans to go out with friends/family and spent an hour in this conversation:
"What sounds good?"
"I don't know, what sounds good to you?"
"I don't know, nothing really. What do you want to do?"
"I don't know.. anything sound good to you?"
"Not really, what do you think we should do?"
"Honestly, I don't care, does anything sound good to you?"
"I don't know. Anything sounds good, what do you think"
"How about Tacos?"
"We could do tacos, I guess"
"Does that sound good?"
"Ehh"
"Ok we don't have to do tacos, what does sound good?"
"I don't know.."
And this conversation is between TWO people... and it DRIVES ME CRAZY...
I have this conversation EVERY TIME I GO OUT... I try to share the decision making..
Eventually I get frustrated and offer two options.. last night it started out like that and then it went to this.
Me: "Ok, so no Tacos, what does sound good?"
Friend: "I don't know. Chinese food? But I can't really afford that.."
Me: "Ok, so something cheap?"
Friend: "Yes. But nothing sounds good. Ohh cheese and crackers, I can always each cheese and crackers."
Me: "We can't just have cheese and crackers -- we won't poop for a week."
Friend: "I don't know."
Me: "How about frozen Pizza?"
Friend: "I guess, but pizza doesn't really sound good."
Me (getting frustrated): "Ok, how about this -- Frozen Pizza or Chicken and Rice?"
Friend: "How much work is Chicken and Rice? I don't want you to have to put a lot of effort in to it."
Me: "Either one takes about the same amount of work. I'm narrowing it down to Frozen Pizza or chicken and Rice."
Friend: "Are you sure, I dont' want you to have to cook."
Me: "I don't care, we just need to make a decision. I narrowed it down, DECIDE."
Friend: "I don't know, what do you think."
Me: "FINE, Chicken and Rice. It's not a lot of prep I just slam some rice down, put chicken on top and top with soup. it's fine."
Friend: "are you sure?"
Me: "YES"
This is almost a WEEKLY conversation.. and it drives me nuts.
Dear Indecisive People:
START MAKING DECISIONS PLEASE!! No one will get mad or hurt if you state your opinion or what you want. Stop trying to appease everyone, all you're doing it pissing me off and then I have to hold it in a pretend like it's not pissing me off -- guess what -- THAT'S GIVING ME AN ULCER!!
Love Stephanie.
Please learn to make a decision on your own from time to time....
I have something of a reputation as a control freak or being bossy.. it is not intentional in the slightest. In fact it's not even my fault at all...
How many times have you made plans to go out with friends/family and spent an hour in this conversation:
"What sounds good?"
"I don't know, what sounds good to you?"
"I don't know, nothing really. What do you want to do?"
"I don't know.. anything sound good to you?"
"Not really, what do you think we should do?"
"Honestly, I don't care, does anything sound good to you?"
"I don't know. Anything sounds good, what do you think"
"How about Tacos?"
"We could do tacos, I guess"
"Does that sound good?"
"Ehh"
"Ok we don't have to do tacos, what does sound good?"
"I don't know.."
And this conversation is between TWO people... and it DRIVES ME CRAZY...
I have this conversation EVERY TIME I GO OUT... I try to share the decision making..
Eventually I get frustrated and offer two options.. last night it started out like that and then it went to this.
Me: "Ok, so no Tacos, what does sound good?"
Friend: "I don't know. Chinese food? But I can't really afford that.."
Me: "Ok, so something cheap?"
Friend: "Yes. But nothing sounds good. Ohh cheese and crackers, I can always each cheese and crackers."
Me: "We can't just have cheese and crackers -- we won't poop for a week."
Friend: "I don't know."
Me: "How about frozen Pizza?"
Friend: "I guess, but pizza doesn't really sound good."
Me (getting frustrated): "Ok, how about this -- Frozen Pizza or Chicken and Rice?"
Friend: "How much work is Chicken and Rice? I don't want you to have to put a lot of effort in to it."
Me: "Either one takes about the same amount of work. I'm narrowing it down to Frozen Pizza or chicken and Rice."
Friend: "Are you sure, I dont' want you to have to cook."
Me: "I don't care, we just need to make a decision. I narrowed it down, DECIDE."
Friend: "I don't know, what do you think."
Me: "FINE, Chicken and Rice. It's not a lot of prep I just slam some rice down, put chicken on top and top with soup. it's fine."
Friend: "are you sure?"
Me: "YES"
This is almost a WEEKLY conversation.. and it drives me nuts.
Dear Indecisive People:
START MAKING DECISIONS PLEASE!! No one will get mad or hurt if you state your opinion or what you want. Stop trying to appease everyone, all you're doing it pissing me off and then I have to hold it in a pretend like it's not pissing me off -- guess what -- THAT'S GIVING ME AN ULCER!!
Love Stephanie.
Another One
So, I went on a rant about dating...
I know that makes some people uncomfortable... Sorry but I do enjoy a good rant.
We were discussing dating on girls night last week and I realized that my true motivation for dating is the story...
Remember that time I date the cable guy (specifically the quality control manager for the cable company).... hey at least I got free installation of cable and my issues fixed FAST...and then I found out his ex was preggars with his baby and was due in a month.... nice!
Remember that time I dated the fire fighter... he had the big truck and the crazy ex and a dog ate his phone....
Remember that time I dated the geologist... and his crazy ex-wife called me and cussed me out...
Remember that time I dated the crazy dude.... we went on three dates and he wanted to go home with me for the two weeks at Christmas... and his name was DJ -- which in my head is NOT a grown up's name...
Remember I dated that dude back in January who pursued me religiously and called me four times a day and then just fell off the earth.... then he called me a month ago and asked me out again....
Remember that time I dated the really hot guy (Surprised -- I was too) and he stood me up on our fifth date because his "hot neighbor came over for a quickie and he couldn't say no"
Remember how I say they disappear and reappear in my life:
Cable guy is back on the dating scene and wants to "hang out"
It's all about the story....
I'll probably hang out with him just to see what's up.. I'll update later. :)
At least I put myself out there..
Even if it is only because I expect a story out of it...
I know that makes some people uncomfortable... Sorry but I do enjoy a good rant.
We were discussing dating on girls night last week and I realized that my true motivation for dating is the story...
Remember that time I date the cable guy (specifically the quality control manager for the cable company).... hey at least I got free installation of cable and my issues fixed FAST...and then I found out his ex was preggars with his baby and was due in a month.... nice!
Remember that time I dated the fire fighter... he had the big truck and the crazy ex and a dog ate his phone....
Remember that time I dated the geologist... and his crazy ex-wife called me and cussed me out...
Remember that time I dated the crazy dude.... we went on three dates and he wanted to go home with me for the two weeks at Christmas... and his name was DJ -- which in my head is NOT a grown up's name...
Remember I dated that dude back in January who pursued me religiously and called me four times a day and then just fell off the earth.... then he called me a month ago and asked me out again....
Remember that time I dated the really hot guy (Surprised -- I was too) and he stood me up on our fifth date because his "hot neighbor came over for a quickie and he couldn't say no"
Remember how I say they disappear and reappear in my life:
Cable guy is back on the dating scene and wants to "hang out"
It's all about the story....
I'll probably hang out with him just to see what's up.. I'll update later. :)
At least I put myself out there..
Even if it is only because I expect a story out of it...
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